Everything was falling apart! I had put an event together and had tried to do everything myself. I was playing the part of superman and was failing miserably. Details had been forgotten and that awkward feeling of everyone standing around waiting for something to happen hung in the air.
I hung up the phone and couldn’t believe what I had heard. Crisis had just struck one of our families in the church. Their child was in a horrific accident and it looked really bad. Rushing to the emergency room, I wondered to myself, “What can I do to help besides pray?”
Frustration! Aggravation! Help! These are the common characteristics of working for a bad leader. I have done it and have probably been the bad leader at times. Struggling with these emotions is difficult and often times in the ministry, we justify a bad attitude. This happens when we are at a church and people come and stroke our ego and talk about how much better we would be as a leader. How do you handle these situations? Loyalty is not easy, but it is a test we will all face and must pass to grow. There are some keys to being loyal to a leader and passing the loyalty test.
The feelings wash over you! Dread, stupidity, shame, and the feeling of, “How did I do this again!” What causes these feelings? Double Booking, which means we are not acting like Calendar Ninjas!
Serving others is one of the strongest themes during the holidays. Caring and serving others should be our attitude and focus all year long. Many of us do not carry this theme throughout the year because we get burnt out. We give and give and never replenish ourselves. This causes us to take time for self-care, which is very healthy. However, it becomes unhealthy when we use being burnt out as an excuse to become selfish. So what is the difference between healthy self-care and unhealthy selfishness? Let’s compare the two and make some observations.
Recently I was at an event that had a bunch of food trucks serving people. All different types of food trucks were there and the event was full of all different types of people. While standing in line, I noticed how all the different types of people were connecting. Whether it was a line for all beef hot dogs with a myriad of toppings, funnel cakes with powdered sugar, or crawfish etouffe, everyone was connecting over their love of food.
The imaging was incredible. The picture was clear and you could see it layer by layer. The only problem was the content of the picture. We were looking at a picture of my wife’s brain tumor. Our life of faith just hit a time of chaos.
A few months ago my wife was diagnosed with a brain tumor and it required surgery to remove the tumor from the upper part of her brain. The surgery went well, but then they told us the results of the lab tests, cancer. Brain cancer is not something we were expecting.
It is strange how certain memories stay with you with each of your children. With my son, I can remember like it was yesterday us driving together to peewee football practice with the windows down listening to “Jefferson Airplane” by Reliant K. With my daughter, it is dancing with her at her big end of the year dance recital. They had all the dad’s do this and we felt like dorks, but the memories were more than worth it!
We are on the second week of the Journey to the Center of You Child. These two blogs are to help you as a parent have some key areas to focus on with your children. In the last blog we talked about, being excited with your child and making security your focus. We will end the series this time focusing on
I was scared out of my mind. My wife and I had just had our first child and the feelings of panic were already welling up inside of us. Driving home from the hospital with our first child felt like a scene from a movie. We kept looking in the back seat and saying two things:
- It’s Alive!!! (kudos to old Frankenstein movies)
- What have we done?
That was the beginning of the journey and it has been a real journey. We now have one in college and the other who will graduate from High School next year. We have a strong relationship