The Myth of Falling in Love

Two hearts in the snow

We see the look in their eye, and the smile on their face.  We know what they are going to say before they say it, “I’m falling in love.”  Our inner cynic rises up since this is the fifth time they have announced they are “falling in love” this year!  Sound familiar?  There are many myths out there, but the myth of falling in love is one of the biggest lies we believe today.

Goal Baby Steps

How to start accomplishing goals and not just making them.


How are those resolutions working out for you?  The end of January is when the reality of resolutions often hits us.  We start with too many and end up doing none of them.  I prefer a goal to a resolution.  Resolutions are dreams goals focus on reality.

As a middle schooler I wanted to get stronger so I got a weight set.  My excitement was overwhelming and so on the first day, I loaded all the weight on the bar and was going to lift it.  I was home alone, yes you are seeing the end already,  as soon as I lifted the bar off the holders the weight came down on me and I was pinned to the bench and couldn’t move.  Amazingly, I was able to get the weight off me by sliding it onto the floor and I realized I had started off with too much.

3 Keys for Real Change in your Life

Real Change Sign

Real change is something we all think about in the new year.  Many people set goals and try to make a change in their life.  Losing weight is probably the number one goal for most people at the beginning of the new year.  However,  many of us have many different areas we want to bring change to.

The new year can bring one of two feelings:

The Lions and The Scorpions Pt 2

A Christmas Parable

The second part of my Christmas parable gift to you this year.


Kinge, a young female scorpion, walked out of her family’s hole a little early to be greeted by the desert heat.  The sun was going down but there would still be light for a couple of hours.  One of her favorite times of day was when the sun was setting.  She liked to go to the water and look at the jungle.

The Lions and The Scorpions: Part 1

A Christmas Parable

As a gift to you this Christmas, the next two weeks will contain a parable for the Christmas season.

The Lions and The Scorpions: Part 1

Gazing through his round spectacles, Tem, a large and wise old elephant stated firmly, “Five Years from now, the river will completely shift and cover the wasteland.”
Mai sat in his chair thinking about the last words spoken.  All the advisors looked at the majestic lion who was their king waiting for a reply.  His sandy mane hung down as he closed his eyes in thought.
With his eyes still closed, Mai asked “So there is no doubt to the reports?”

Self-Care vs Selfishness pt 2

What do you deserve?

Guy with a gift

My guns were at the ready.  My mask was adjusted just right.  My hat was blocking the sun perfectly.  Yes, I had become the Lone Ranger!  Christmas as a 6 year old was perfect for me because I had gotten a Lone Ranger outfit.  Looking back I’m sure the mask was cheesy and the guns made that little click noise that didn’t intimidate anyone, but to my 6 year old brain, it was perfect.  Watching old Lone Ranger reruns after school, was a regular habit for me.  My parents saw this and got me the outfit.  The joy I felt on Christmas when I received the gift was incredible and I wore the outfit for days.

Self-Care vs Selfishness

What is our true motivation?

Group of people

Serving others is one of the strongest themes during the holidays.  Caring and serving others should be our attitude and focus all year long.   Many of us do not carry this theme throughout the year because we get burnt out.  We give and give and never replenish ourselves.  This causes us to take time for self-care, which is very healthy.  However, it becomes unhealthy when we use being burnt out as an excuse to become selfish.  So what is the difference between healthy self-care and unhealthy selfishness?  Let’s compare the two and make some observations.

Four Reasons to be Thankful for the USA

Let's quit putting our country down

I am thankful that I live in the United States.  During the craziness of the presidential election this year, I noticed a trend of people being quick to tear down the United States and I felt frustrated.  We are not a perfect country, but what country is perfect?
Iwo Jima Memorial Statue
There seems to be a pressure our society has to focus on the negatives of the USA and forget the positives.  I wanted to highlight a few simple reasons I am thankful for the USA.

Food Truck Secrets to Connecting


Recently I was at an event that had a bunch of food trucks serving people. All different types of food trucks were there and the event was full of all different types of people. While standing in line, I noticed how all the different types of people were connecting.  Whether it was a line for all beef hot dogs with a myriad of toppings, funnel cakes with powdered sugar, or crawfish etouffe, everyone was connecting over their love of food.  

Finishing Well

Lessons from a Triathlon

victory-picI recently finished a 1/2 iron man triathlon.  The race is a 1.2 mile swim, 56 mile bike, and 13.1 mile run. Yes, it was brutal, but the goal was to finish!  During the race you are focused on finishing, but you have a lot of time to think. This past race I was thinking how life is a race to the finish and how many of the same principles in a triathlon apply to life.